A Better Relationship for Valentine’s Day
How Counseling Can Help You Banish The Breakup Blues
Vicki Alexander
The end of a relationship can be one of the most difficult challenges to work through, especially if you are not the one who ended the relationship. It is normal to feel lost and have mixed emotions as you adapt to a new life without your loved one. Seeking the help of a counselor can help you sort out your feelings in a safe environment and get your life back on track again.
Express your feelings in a safe place
Talking to friends and family when you are going through a breakup can be helpful, but you may not always get the best advice. People close to you may also be hurting over your breakup or be distraught because they were close to your ex. Talking to a counselor allows you to express your feelings to someone who is not close to the situation and can offer advice from a fresh perspective.
Navigate the ups and downs
It is normal to experience both highs and lows following a breakup. This can be frustrating because you may feel like you are making progress only to have a major setback later. Your counselor can help you navigate the ups and downs of a breakup and help you learn to give yourself grace when you feel you have taken a step backward.
Rebuild your self-esteem
Being dumped by your ex can cause a major blow to your self-esteem. It is only natural to feel betrayed, but it is also common to start blaming yourself or feeling as if something is wrong with you. Rebuilding your self-esteem is vital and your counselor can help you work through the uncertainties about what caused your breakup and help you avoid the blame game.
Develop a healthy mindset
Getting trapped in negative thought patterns can make it impossible to let go of a broken relationship and move on. Some unhealthy patterns are thinking of ways to get your ex back or fantasizing about the way things used to be. Your counselor can help you develop techniques to move forward rather than remaining stuck in unhelpful thought patterns.
In the initial weeks following a breakup, it is normal to feel as if your life is ruined or that you will never get over it. Working with a counselor can be valuable, especially when your emotions are raw, and you feel alone. Counseling can help you navigate the ups and downs of a breakup and give you guidance as you make a new life for yourself.
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Valentine’s Day is supposed to be the most romantic day of the year. My husband and I always shower each other with gifts and affection at this time. But, for some couples, this special day is another sad reminder of their unhappy relationships. If you and your spouse have hit a rough patch in your marriage recently, why not take Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to invest in your relationship? You can accomplish this task by visiting a local reputable marriage counselor. This professional can work with the two of you on communication skills, division of household chores, issues of forgiveness, and many other problems. On this blog, you will discover how to utilize a counselor this Valentine’s Day.